Marriage Counseling Colorado Springs
Are You And Your Spouse Struggling Within Your Marriage?
Does it feel as though you’ve become roommates or are living parallel lives? Have you noticed any of the following unhealthy patterns within your relationship:
Constant conflict, fighting, or arguing?
A lack of healthy communication?
A lack of affection or physical intimacy?
Perhaps your relationship has struggled with issues for a while now, or maybe these problems have just recently emerged, and you want to address them head-on. You may have attended marriage therapy before, or you’ve recently become interested in trying it for the first time.
Relationship Issues Can Harm A Marriage If Left Unaddressed
You may have noticed a growing emotional distance between you and your spouse, as well as a physical distance and a lack of intimacy as well. Either or both of you may be disconnecting or escaping through anything from substance abuse to social media to simply spending more time with friends or alone than with each other.
Marriages are always works in progress, though, and you can improve yours with mutual time, effort, and energy. Therapy can help you take your marriage from surviving to thriving by more fully reconnecting you with each other’s thoughts, perspectives, and needs.
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Most Married Couples Experience Issues At Some Point
You likely feel a desire to be more connected to one another, but may also feel a sense of frustration and perhaps even hopelessness. You’re both stuck in a cycle you have no idea how to break.
Communication and trust issues are at the heart of many problems within relationships and marriages. This can manifest as an excess of unconstructive conflict or an inability or unwillingness to have difficult conversations. And when you can’t communicate with your spouse, you may pull away or detach from one another.
Therapy Is Proven to be Effective When Both Parties Commit to the Process
The good news is that marriage counseling can be very helpful, and most couples that attend report improvements in their relationship. In fact, according to one statistic, “the success rate of marriage counseling is around 70 [percent]” (1), as therapy can help you become more attuned to yourself and each other.
Often, we see marriages suffer because women are being conditioned to prioritize their children over their relationship with their spouse. Other times, it’s work that takes priority over the relationship for one or both partners. Whatever the reasons, though, it’s incredibly common for marriages to fall into disrepair and disconnection because a lack of effort and energy.
Simply put, many people don’t know what a healthy relationship or marriage looks like, much less how to build one for themselves. But with the help and support of an experienced marriage counselor, you can actively build the relationship that you actually want together.
(1) https://www.wellmarriagecenter.com/about-us/benefits-of-couples-counseling/
Marriage Counseling Can Help You Repair Your Bond
When you’re stuck in unhealthy and unfulfilling cycles with your spouse, you can completely lose touch with what you’ve always loved about them in the first place. And you can get cast and stuck negative perceptions of each other that can be difficult to overturn or move beyond without a neutral yet caring third party.
But marriage therapy can help you rediscover your shared capacity for a loving relationship and reconnect with the reasons why your marriage is still worth saving. We will explore who is pursuing and how, who is withdrawing and how, and how this is affecting your relationship. Within this framework, we will work to identify your attachment styles to better understand what you are doing—and why you are doing it.
A Flexible, Nonjudgmental Approach To Marriage Counseling
We can incorporate multiple modalities in our sessions, including:
Gottman Method Marriage Counseling – An evidence-based form of relationship therapy, the Gottman Method can help couples improve communication, trust, and intimacy within their marriage.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) – Rooted in Attachment Theory, EFT can help spouses improve their relationship patterns and increase their emotional intimacy.
Attachment-Focused Therapy (AT) – Similar to EFT, Attachment-Focused Therapy helps couples examine their attachment style and move from an insecure to a secure attachment within their marriage.
We will help you cultivate new ways to communicate with each other and explore how your family of origin has influenced your communication and interaction patterns. Within the Gottman Method of marriage counseling, the “four horsemen” of marital issues include criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling—and therapy can help you move past and tendencies these dynamics may have within your relationship.
Ultimately, we want you to know that living a happier, healthier, more joyful, and connected marriage is entirely possible, and we can help you get there. It will take effort on both of your parts, along with honesty, humility, and compassion—but if you’re willing to do the work, then a more fulfilling marriage together is within your reach.
You May Still Have Some Questions About Marriage Counseling…
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I’m concerned that my therapist will take sides against me.
This is a common concern, but our goal is not to take sides but instead to help couples go from surviving to thriving in relationships. We are not interested in taking sides because it doesn’t model what connection is truly about, and it does not benefit the couple or lead them to a happier, healthier relationship—which is our primary concern.
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I’m afraid of being judged or misunderstood.
We understand that a fear of judgment is natural in such a vulnerable environment. We care for people in the same way as we would want our family, our friends, or ourselves taken care of.
Our primary concern is for married couples to feel seen, heard, and understood—not judged. And our goal is to remain objective and help you better understand each other and your experiences in a more gentle, curious, and compassionate way.
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I’m worried that counseling will only make things worse.
The truth is that when we seek to address something significantly painful, it can be a complex process. But it’s only by not addressing it that we actually end up making things worse in the long term. In fact, engaging in the work of marriage counseling can be understood as a long-term emotional investment in the health of your relationship.
You Can Reconnect And Build The Relationship You Want
If you are looking to reconnect with your spouse, marriage counseling Colorado Springs with Alpine Family Counseling can help you repair your bond and build a happier, healthier, more fulfilling relationship together.
Please call 719-413-6879 or visit our contact page to get started.
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Marriage Counseling Colorado Springs
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7680 Goddard St Suite 120
Colorado Springs, CO 80920
719-413-6879